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Writing and giving a eulogy is a praiseworthy action and a very important contribution to a memorial service.  This contribution will be remembered by friends and family for a very long time, so feel honored about your participation in this difficult event. 

Writing the eulogy feels like an overwhelming task, especially in your current emotional state.  You may have difficulty concentrating or maintaining your composure during this process.  THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL.  Stop and take a few moments for yourself, and remember that you can write and deliver a great eulogy.  All you have to do is follow the instructions in the remainder of this guideline, and you will give a touching eulogy.

Right now, try and keep a positive attitude.  Remember that everybody at the service will be behind you completely.  Do not be concerned about giving the perfect eulogy.  Do what you can given the short time frame and fragility of your well being.  Again, this is an emotionally challenging time for you.  Nobody expects you to have great stage presence, or be an amazing orator.  JUST BE YOURSELF, TAKE YOUR TIME, AND CONVEY YOUR FEELINGS FOR YOUR LOST LOVED ONE.  The most touching eulogies convey your emotions and your feelings.  They are not a summary of the person’s life story.

Before writing the eulogy, it is important to overcome your feelings of fear.  You have many confusing questions running through your mind:  “What do I say?”  “Will people like it?”  “How long will it be?”  “Where do I even begin?”  These questions will be answered for you in this guide.  The important thing for you to do is put your fears aside and break everything down into small pieces.  Remember that you eat the elephant in many small portions, not just one bite.  Nothing great is done in one sitting.

FIND INSPIRATIONS FOR IDEAS and write down your thoughts and feelings.  If you are having trouble deciding what to even mention in your eulogy, find inspiration from outside yourself.  There are many different ways to do this.  You can flip through old photo albums, or watch old home videos.  Look at scrapbooks, or any other items that can help conjure up old memories, stories, or feelings about your loved one.  Ask friends and family members for their stories and fond memories.  Remember that the burden of the eulogy is not yours completely.  It is perfectly fine to say, “I was chatting with Aunt Barb, and she was telling me about the time Kevin, one summer, shaved his head with his youngest son.  That just reminded me of how spontaneous and silly he was around his children.”  Sometimes someone had many negative qualities.  It is fine to touch upon these things.  However, say them in a courteous tone, and remember that there is an audience there as well.  You are the best judge of what can be said.  Remember to just be honest, and everyone will appreciate the eulogy.

The next step in preparing your eulogy speech is to write a eulogy outline.

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